Adventures M

It’s really tough when kids have to deal with peer pressure and bulling in school but when when a coach does it it’s unacceptable.

Wow Hello Peter! I wish I was made aware of this page sooner. This is an incident that happened last year at Greenpoint facilities once after Mark, a managing coach and father to the kids was forced to transfer under accusations that is not my business to discuss. But I have the right to discuss an incident that happened in front of me to many times and when I brought it to their attention via text I was attached. I should have removed my son when the kind coach left cause since then the toxicity at that club became more revealed. Toxic coaching can leave scars on these kids and if coaches like Aziz aren’t educated on how to prevent an abusive environment this can give a bad representation of Fives Futbol. He has on a number of occasions made insinuated gestures to the young boys on the team when he greets them, “ where is your boy friend? / is that your boyfriend? The reaction of the kids was always shocking to me but of course he took no note. It’s one thing to poke fund an adult but there should be lines that you do not cross with kids. He would never say that to a man he just met or another man in passing. Not only did this leave a child hurt but it triggered what teasing he already deals with in school. After I brought this to his attention about the kids reaction and what his solution was. He not only dismissed the kids feelings but threatened to have them not let into the property, because of something HE did as a coach, nothing the adolescent did, as an innocent by standards. This entitlement is unacceptable under all circumstances especially when not being accountable of his own actions only escalates to confrontation, disrespect and abuse of authority. Do you know how humiliating that is at that age, while they go thru their own identity with todays issues? The child lost his mother a couple years ago and Aziz doesn’t take in consideration what kids in general have been through. He completely jeopardizes trust as an adult that they already have to face from peer pressure in schools. When I told Aziz the kids reaction he rep**** saying “HE should grow up”. Aziz feels being humorous thru disrespect is ok, when it’s bullying and patronizing.  He should keep that humor with his own buddies. No kid should have to tolerate being belittle and have to figure out how to answer an adult the right way. I’m sure you wouldn’t appreciate another man speaking to you or your son like that. When we put our kids with these coaches we expect to build confidence and respect. A simple apology when I brought it to his attention in text would have been easy, but his irrational reply was the best way he felt it should be handled. He took no responsibility and was unprofessional on all levels. I would be doing a disservice to our values and raising mentally healthy kids by condoning his immaturity. He will not have to worry about seeing this family as he insinuated in the text but these matters need to be fixed and educated so other children do not have to be abused in that same matter. Coaches play a big role in the development of these kids especially the boys when sports is everything. If it doesn’t pertain to soccer than what do they have to say to a child you are l getting to know? It’s sad to find so many men here don’t see the value in that when they were young boys before too. But says a lot to who they are today. Adams team forced him to apologize as a representation on FiVes but he already told a parent he owes me nothing. He is right, it was never about me. And then Adam offered me a free t-shirt as compensation. A “free T-Shirt” What a great offer to represent a business that only cares about the money not just the physical but the mental development of each child. It’s been made clear to me Fives soccer morals and values are not established and that comes out when other coaches who represent the brand do not feel at fault making a child cry from inappropriate gestures. The irony is, an adult will say they care about children and there is no denying witnessing, a child’s innocence brings pure joy, but when the adult shows carelessness to their own actions in regards to what is said to a change child , it proves it’s not about the child , yet clearly about themself. Bottom line is we used out the rest of the term because of how much I paid which is over priced to get that treatment. But he intentionally made it uncomfortable to say the lease and gave my son no attention in training. The other soccer club we went to offered all around needs, actually unskilled my son and not mention more for my buck.